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Post by vanynessa on Dec 16, 2007 4:44:05 GMT -5
Actually, I can't remember if I was or was not, either. I just wanted to bitch about something cause it's 445 in the morning. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! HEE HEE..........
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Post by Mel on Dec 16, 2007 16:11:25 GMT -5
Bitching is always good, it is really good if you have a real person to bitch to. LOL
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Post by vanynessa on Dec 16, 2007 16:27:08 GMT -5
Haha, heck yeah. And I have all the great people of this forum to listen to my wining, and vis versa!! Anyone got something they need to get off of their chest? My ears are open.........or rather my eyes (since I'll be reading your bitching......).
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Post by DDL on Dec 16, 2007 16:31:24 GMT -5
You don't want to hear mine. It's complicated.  |
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Post by vanynessa on Dec 16, 2007 21:03:55 GMT -5
Awww, come on. I don't have anything else better to do right now. BITCH AWAY!!!!!
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Post by DDL on Dec 17, 2007 0:38:38 GMT -5
All right then, here's my bitch of the day: In case nobody here knows, I'm 15 years old. I turn 16 next April. Unlike most girls my age, I'm not a boy freak. I don't even think people should date at my age. I value my studies the most (especially English - one thing I'm proud of is my vocabulary, since I'm an English nut like my mom is), then comes Voyager (  ), then comes everything else. I've had a friend for about five years now who recently told me he has a crush on me. I value him as a friend, but don't feel the same way. The facts: * He's 17. * His father doesn't live with them. * His mother and sister do drugs and smoke. * His mother refused to feed him after he turned 16. * He's emaciated and she mistreats him because he refuses to do drugs, smoke, or drink. * We reported it but nothing happened whatsoever. * He lives in England. * He hates men and wishes he was a girl, which is annoying to me. Several years ago, upon hearing this horror story, we told him we'd let him move in with us until he got back on his feet. He wants to live in America anyway. Now, although I still think it would be fun to meet him, I'm concerned about it. My mom has already told him she'd not permit him to date me or anything (being religious, our family only does courtship anyway) but he hasn't really slowed down any. He got the point and said he'd be careful and gain mom's trust, etc. It's obvious, right? Tell him that much as I like him as a friend, I don't like him any other way. Not quite. I never said either way about how I felt, but of course that could be taken as a yes. The main problem is that he has zero self-esteem and that I'm really worried about what would happen if I told him. We got into one argument once in those five years and after that he decided to go and "punish" himself. He hates himself, can never take a compliment, can't ever lose a board game or he skulks all day. We plan on having him get professional help because that attitude isn't going to get him anywhere. I'm hoping that once he comes here and mom lays down the law (he'll also be working) that he'll cool it and find some other girl more suiting for him. Were he less sensitive, I would have told him from the start. But he really flips over everything. I once hinted that I liked his shorter hair better than his current long, girly hair and he almost died. He said that was the one time he ever got truly angry at me. How can someone ask someone else a question and then get mad at them when they're honest? So, as I said, he's much better as a friend. It just bugs me all over. The entire situation sucks. Oh, I forgot to mention. Not only is he 17, but he has this big stuffed dog. He hugs the stupid thing, pretends it's me, and then tells me how he pretended he was holding me in his arms all night or all day. This really creeps me out. So, there's my whine for now. I've got another one, but it's so long you'd probably have to read it in chunks. |
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Post by Rowan on Dec 17, 2007 16:05:33 GMT -5
No offence, i'm sure he's lovely and/or needs help but the dog thing is kinda creepy and I would like to state for the record that not all people in England do this.  When is he gonna come live with u? |
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Post by DDL on Dec 17, 2007 20:01:29 GMT -5
I'm so glad. ;D No, I knew people in England didn't usually act like total weirdos. I have lots of normal friends from England. Um.. sometime in early 2008. |
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Post by vanynessa on Dec 17, 2007 21:15:21 GMT -5
Wow.........that's really nice of you guys, but I don't know about the whole living with you thing. I agree with Rowan that the dog thing is a little strange. However, if your mother truly is a "lay down the law" type of person, maybe that's just what this boy needs to kick him into gear (gain some self esteem, etc....) YOU should lay down the law about the friendship thing RIGHT AWAY, before he moves in with you guys. Let him know that's just the way it's going to be, and if he doesn't like it then he shouldn't move in with you guys. I feel sorry for him, but it's not fair for you to feel uncomfortable in your own home. There's my 2 cents. (Thanks for sharing, DDL).
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Post by DDL on Dec 17, 2007 22:11:42 GMT -5
Well, I did tell him that I wouldn't even want him thinking about it until quite awhile after he moved so he could settle, and I'm hoping by that time my mom will have gotten it into his head that it would be a poor idea, and also that by then he'll be a bit more mature.
I guess I forgot to mention it, but my mom has already paid for part of what will be necessary for him to come, so if I change my mind about it it would be a terrible waste of money.
My mom is not only very protective but an ex-attorney, so she plans on watching him all the time plus she's good at enforcing rules.
But before he comes I do plan on reinforcing the notion that I don't want him clinging to me or generally bugging me. Honestly, this happened really recently and before that everything was cool. It was only like the past couple of weeks he came out and told me so it was a bit too late then.
He also gets jealous when I talk about other friends, male or female, and THAT is going to stop. I also like talking about you, Van, because I find your comments amusing, plus I plan on meeting you and the others at a con next year (which he won't be going to since he isn't really that big into Trek), and I don't care what he thinks of it or not.
Once he's on his feet, he'll be moving into his own place anyway. It's one thing to be friends with someone, it's another to be living with them. I just wish he hadn't pulled this. It just makes everything harder on everybody.
...although, my mom did have an idea yesterday. We could have him staying with my father instead since my dad wants someone here to guard the house when he goes out anyway, and that would be easier on us, although I doubt Sam would go for that. It seems like a reasonable alternative though. I'm still discussing this with my mom, so I'll let you know.
So that on top on everything else is rather stressful.
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Post by vanynessa on Dec 20, 2007 12:20:52 GMT -5
That is stressful!! Well, if you need any advice, we're here for ya, DDL!! (I like the option of him moving into your Dad's house, if not at first, then maybe after he get's used to the US. Give it a month, maybe.....) Good luck with that!!! By the way, WHERE THE HECK IS EVERYBODY!! I'M LONELY..............  -rather- DDL AND I ARE LONELY.................... |
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Post by KateJaneway on Dec 20, 2007 14:57:09 GMT -5
hey...I've been posting! |
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Post by Mel on Dec 20, 2007 19:02:31 GMT -5
I am here. Well kinda very busy working.
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Post by vanynessa on Dec 21, 2007 17:03:37 GMT -5
hey...I've been posting! Okay, so me, DDL, and KJ are lonely. |
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Post by DDL on Dec 21, 2007 17:51:21 GMT -5
Maybe we can get people posting again by tempting them with cookies.
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