Reason's why I hate my job...

[KateJaneway]

Okay, so I don't hate it cause I don't have it anymore but why can't I find a job I like???

I would love to get paid to write fanfiction all day long... *sigh*

Maybe I'll find a good one soon... I know I need one that keeps me busy. Not one sitting on my butt all day cause that my friends is horrid! Miss JF, I'm going to come work with you!

[Mel]

Try finding one at a library! You are always on your feet moving around and working with people face to face. I loved it!

[KateJaneway]

That would be awesome but people around here never leave those jobs! I'd have to wait for an employee to kick it to get one. But good idea, Mel.

I'm looking for a server job... maybe even retail. Hmm. Off to the mall I go.

[KateJaneway]

Humm... lot's of people out there for server jobs... I'm going to have to broaden my search parameters.

It doesn't count as double posting if I'm talking to myself.

[Mara Wildman]

OK, so I don't necessarily hate my job. I mean, it has its ups and downs, and sometimes I let it get to me, but generally I pretty much enjoy working here. (At least, thinking about the days where fun conversations happen or when the guys do something stupid, haha. Of course, that's a lot of days.) This post also may not be entirely about my job.

My whole life I've always had the need to be "one of the guys." I'm not the kind of person who's all about "more power to women!" and all that. All the things I say and do are because it's just who I am. I work in a warehouse. My friends here are all college-age guys. I'm pretty much just like them. However, there are times when I get a real slap about the reality that no woman, no matter how much of a tomboy she is, can never truly be "one of the guys."

The most recent example happened just a few minutes ago. A woman from another department drove over with a box of paper to be shredded. I said that I could get it because I lift a lot of weight at work every day. She's all like "Are you sure? I could help you lift one side." I just confirm again that I can do it. So we get to her car and I can immediately tell it's going to be nothing. Sure enough. I grab it and it's gotta be no more than 20 lbs. I lift about 40 lbs multiple times on a daily basis. A couple times in the past week I even lifted 70 lbs with little effort. So I finally convince her that I can do it myself cuz her trying to help will only slow me down. I'm carrying it toward the door and about to reach for the handle when she says, "oh, let me get the door for you." I sigh, put my hand down, and grant her that. Then I walk in the door and the guy that's working on the a/c says, "You want me to get that for you, sweetie?" I'm like, no, I've got it. Then I walk it to the shredder and toss the box next to it.

Sorry, I just wanted to get that out. I don't have a pride issue. I just want to be able to do what I do normally without people thinking I'm overdoing it or just... ugh... Anyway...

[.:Salina:.]

I'm sorry... It's more fun being a woman anyway! Haha!

[Janeway Forever]

Mara, I think they were just trying to be polite....which is a good thing. Not a bad thing. If I passed a guy carrying something heavy, or even slightly heavy, I would be irked if he didn't offer to help. I'm not saying that I would let him, but he ought to offer.

[Mara Wildman]

I know. It's just that I get paid to lift heavy things and it seems that people at work (though outside my department) don't seem to think I'm capable of my job. I guess they think I have a desk job instead of my packing job. I'm only at the desk a few times a day and it's only to print more orders. But also, even Josh has been realizing how much I am like a guy. Usually when someone offers to help me I feel like they're downplaying my abilities or calling me girly. But I learned a long time ago that if I know I can't do it I'm going to not get prideful, but let them help.

[Janeway Forever]

Being girlie isn't a bad thing. I'm girlie. I love it when men help me. In any fashion whatsoever. It irritates me when men don't hold the door open. If I'm carrying something and they don't offer to help, I'm insulted. If we both walk up to a door and they don't let me go first, I gripe about the downfall of chivalry.

I get paid to serve people, to run food, to bus tables. When one of the male servers helps me carry a heavy load or run heavy plates, which happens daily, I don't view it as a reflection of them thinking I'm incapable of doing my job. They're simply being polite....doing what their mothers taught them.

Being one of the guys is cool. But you shouldn't expect guys to have no manners. It's ingrained into them. Or at least it should be.

[KateJaneway]

Mar 23, 2011 15:00:30 GMT -5 Janeway Forever said:

They're simply being polite....doing what their mothers taught them.

Being one of the guys is cool. But you shouldn't expect guys to have no manners. It's ingrained into them. Or at least it should be.

Well said. I know I will raise Aidan with some serious manners when it comes to women.

I guess some will appreciate it.

[Mara Wildman]

True, true. I don't like being called a "lady," and used to tell ppl to not say "ladies" when I'm in the group. I finally learned to just deal with it because it's the polite way to address a group of women/girls. I guess I'll just have to learn to deal with this, too, instead of let it bug me. I am female afterall, and that can't be changed. Plus, Josh is very chivalrous. And our son is definitely going to be well versed in the ways of chivalry.

[KateJaneway]

You don't like being called a lady?!?



What... I mean... huh... but... don't... Meh, nevermind.